Category: Dating and Relationships
Do you think a person can meet more than one soul mate in a lifetime? Or do you think it's only a one time thing?
lol. I feel girly posting to this board...
No, one soulmate per person. You might come close to finding more than one, and one can be happy with someone who's not their soulmate, but there's just one.
lol. I'm done now.
yes, i do
I think you would need to be extremely lucky. I thought I had met 2 at 15, but it turned out differently, due to circumstances outwith our control.
I think people can be confused and think that they, perhaps have met tmore than one soulmate, but I don't feel it's at all possible.
I agree, there's only one "soulmate".
...just as I am given to think that some may never find their soul-mate so too I am given to think that Yes, it is possible to find more than one soul-mate during the course of one's life.
I would certainly hope that after having met a soul-mate and that time or that person having passed...well I would hope that yet another soul-mate could I venture to meet up with.
Connie ~ Grace
I think that you meet only one soul-mate in your life, cause if you met more than one, it wouldn't be called your "soul-mate". You can come close, like someone else said, but your soul-mate is just that. He-she is the one you kno is the love of your life, and the one that you can't imagine spending the rest of your life without.
I agree with Conny, it would be awfully sad to think that if you met someone and that person died for instance, you could never feel that way again or be that happy again.
And what exactly constitutes a "soulmate"? after all if you are in a serious relationship don't you reach a point where you cannot imagine your life without that person? When we get married we vow to be together until "death us do part" and yet 40% of marriages end in divorce, so does that mean that 40% of married couples thought they'd found their soulmate and then proved to be wrong? no, IMO it implies that you can have more than one.
Peple change, the way we think, the way we feel, the way we view things changes, and sometimes, the one we love doesn't change in the same way. And people die. and if you met your "soulmate" and he/she died three months down the line, would you be content to accept that that was it for you? that you would never meet anyone else? or that if you did you would have to be happy knowing they just weren't your soulmate - just second best?
If you think that then you surely believe that we only get one shot at happyness, and I simply do not believe that's true.
If your "soul-mate" dies, then okay, sure you'll find someone else, and okay, people deserve more than one chance at happiness in there lives, and to find another person to share it with, but it's not the same thing as the original "soul-mate". What I'm saying is, that you only find one! true soul-mate in your life, and by that I mean, the one person that connects with you on everything! and that you love with every thing you have. If you find another soul-mate, then your original one wasn't really your soul-mate to begin with.
What if you meet that special someone and you don't act on it, but then you meet someone equal to them, and you are blissfully happy with them.
Also,what if you cant choose between two great people, when either of them have could be your soulmate.
I guess it's something that you just have to listen to your heart about, and follow it. If you can't choose, then, your stuck. That's just my 2 cents worth.
You can certainly meet more than one soul-mate. Granted, meeting even one is very precious and special and finding another is even more rare, but that doesn't mean that it can't happen. Very few people actually find one soul-mate, let alone the extremely lucky few who find another soul-mate. I think it is pure unadulterated bull-shit to say that if you found a soul-mate and that if they died and you found another that the first one wasn't truly your soul-mate though. Also, we're not thinking broadly enough here. My best friend Kaitlyn is my soul-mate. I know someone who's lead-dog is their soul-mate. A soul-mate can be a family member, friend, lover or an animal. Being a soul-mate has nothing to do with sex, and everything to do with love and a deep enduring spiritual connection.
...these are excellent thots LaMusiqueDuSoirTristeEtBelle and perhaps there is a need for a change in terms, from "Soul Mate" to more so, "Soul Mates," for there is a need to expand our thinking, to expand our horizons. We don't have to have narrow minded souls as it were, for I believe our souls are in fact capable of attaining more than we have ever even dared, hoped, or dreamt.
Our hearts are far greater in capasity than our minds, but they do have limits. Our souls however are nearly limitless.
...and when spirit is alive within...then...yes our soul's alive with a fire, as it were, of life sustaining and all encompassing, with boundaries removed and no longer living within the boxes of limitations that "others" try to put in place, living beyond these barriers and reaching forth into the vastness, coming into the realization that Yes, there is more, way far more available where meaning and the heart -to- heart and more so, the soul -to- soul touching strings are given to resonate with a melody unheard of by others but known by the ones partaking.
Wo, I'm put to shame. Yall should seriously listen to this girl, she's rediculously ensiteful and unfairly intelligent. I am awed by your greatness ma'am.
I am impressed by the variety of answers I received on this post. In my case, my husband does not exist on this Earthly realm. He is gone, and that part of my life is gone, contained in a room which will never be opened again. My future spouse will be a soul mate, but differently than he was. My needs then, when I was married to my husband, are different now because of what I learned then. So, for possible soul mates everywhere, I say rock on.
I agree that there is only one "soul mate"
To Dream Lady,
In agreement with you I am...
Maintain your freedom to soar, and to meet with expectations.
Connie ~ Grace
I sencerely hope that you all will find your soulmate, and that fate willing if you ever find a second or third soulmate that you will be open enough to recognize and charish that.
I don't think, someone else can b my soulmate!
he or she never can take your sadness or your happiness as your feelings. never!
people r very selfish, and always busy with own self. he or she loves u for his or her needs, if the person have someone more impressive than u, u will straightly through away. yes i aggree, people can b lover, and u can have more than one! but not soulmate. never!
I'm sorry you feel that way. If you don't believe that it's possible then for you it just might never happen. Have more faith in fate, in mankind and in your self.
Okay erh, this topic is quite interesting. WHat is the deffinition of a soulmate? I always thought it implied one person. However that person can die, and one shouldn't abandon all hope in that case.
John
Dream lady, sorry to here about your husband.
Well, it is true that we find someone who can fulfill us. But the way to finding a soul mate is to be happy with yourself. When you are, love will come to you.
My definition of a soul mate is: someone who loves, respects, and accepts me for who I am. Someone who has the same values, and tastes, but not necessarily the same interests. When I find that special person, It will be just like coming home.
That, is a very apt discription.
Heather and Claire have both expressed how I feel on this subject, and much more eloquently than I could've done. It's a terrible thing to think that if you find your soulmate, and he or she dies, that's it and you're done, no more soulmate for you. I believe it's true that you can be happy with someone who's not necessarily your soulmate, because as has already been said, some people never find theirs at all, but I do believe they're out there, in the plural. I believe that my best friend is my soulmate, and I don't think I'm old enough to have even come close to finding my romantic soulmate, but I'm hopeful.
when you meet this person and lose them at a young age is it wrong to spend the rest of your life alone?
Absolutely. You need to live for you. Put your self first as long as you are not hurting others in any way. There is no reason to think that just because you have loved and lost a soulmate, to disease, fate, or to circomstances that you won't find and should not look for another.
I agree. the person I find will never be replaced as the ones I've lost will never be replaced. Keep posting. I love this site.
I don't see how your lost soul-mate or mates, can ever replace any new person that comes into your life. It's a whole new love, and a whole set of new memories that you'll share with the new person.
couldn't have said it better myself, liz.
Okay in the sense that Dream Lady means I don't think a "soulmate" exist. My reasons for this is when you fall in love and think you've met the perfect person as life deals it's changes and woe's people also change. I believe any and all relationships require work, love, compassion, and most of all the willingness to give and give in. You can only find love if you are willing to change, grow, and give. I also believe if you have these things in your heart, then you will find more then one "soulmate" if that existed, because you are open to giving and loving.
no, I think there's one soulmate
Post 13 expresses most accurately my feelings on this subject, although the term "soulmate" usually makes me cringe. I don't equate it with a love interest, though that is what most people mean when they speak of soulmates. It just sounds to me like some cheesy concept from songs.
If you expect only to come across one soulmate in an entire lifetime, you are setting yourself up for heartache. And, with millions of people in the world, it seems improbable that you'd just *happen* to meet one who is compatible to that degree. How can you be sure there aren't twenty more just as compatible? The idea that there's just the one is a bit silly, in my opinion.